Sometimes I plant regret in my past like a flag, claiming a portion of my life or any number of decisions as regrettable. Sometimes I use the word regret as a sword, a flank attack on anyone who has hurt me. What better vengeance than to audibly dismiss someone as a regret? And what words could better echo the tone and tenor of my heart?
Regret is a sweet poison. It almost tastes like nostalgia going down, but it erodes the heart in the end. It’s a toxic balm applied to wounded memories. It’s passivity cloaked as responsibility.
Sometimes the hardest thing to do is accept past decisions. Life is full of choices, and barring blatant immorality, my choices are right because I made them.
Much of life is gray, not black and white as I would prefer, and I’m learning how to trust past Mike. The way he felt. The decisions he made. Which means regret is pointless, at least in the long term. In the short term, regret, better called conviction, can be healthy as long as it leads to repentance, growth, etc.
I have the freedom to choose and to fail, to trust and be betrayed, to love and be let down. We all do. And that’s the beautiful thing about this life. We are not marionettes, and God is not a puppet master. He is a loving, empowering father who is bigger than our failures and the healer of our wounds. Are the implications of our freedom still scary? Yes. But it’s even more exhilarating.